The kids are not doing well

 The kids are not doing well..

The pandemic is over but there is a new “virus” spreading through our student population.   It is an epidemic of anxiety.  School counselors are reporting that children as young as 6 are talking about killing themselves and describing ways they might do it.   Counselors, parents, and school staff are asking why?  Why now?

There are lots of possible answers.   For younger children who spent their early years of schooling online, the answer is that these kids are too challenged by the in-school experience with so many students and no developmentally appropriate tools to respond to both the demands and the differences.  Anxiety is the body’s response to a perceived threat.  So, we move to “fight or flight” preparing for danger.  Younger kids will experience somatic symptoms like stomach aches, headaches or disrupted sleep.  Other kids express their anxiety with lots of what if questions: “what if you forget to pick me up”,  “what if no one likes me at school” and for some of our Hispanic children, “what if my parents are gone when I get home”.

Causes of the anxiety may be environmental- parents fighting, food insecurity, ICE taking away a loved one.   Older kids are aware of the news.  The Pew Research Center reports that more than half of all middle and high school students are worried about a shooting event at their school.  The Lancet polled kids nationwide and found that 45% felt climate change impacted their daily lives.

Many experts point to social media and excessive phone use.  Children are having “phone-based childhood” where instead of playing in person with others, their interactions are screen based and kids are missing out on the experiences which teach resilience and develop a growth mindset.  

One of the positive outcomes of social media is that children are more aware of mental illness. As a result, mental Illness has lost some of its stigma and given people access to more resources. Even the language is changing.   Professionals recommend saying the words, "mental illness" rather than "mental health".   Maybe being clinically anxious has been given a certain amount of social panache.

At least kids are open to telling us they are not doing well.  Now what are we going to do with that information?