Tuesday, March 12, 2024

Are you happy yet?

 Are You Happy Yet?

 

Really, right now, are you happy?  Well maybe not happy, maybe just ok, just fine.  We seem to have entered into a period of preoccupation with being happy.  We worry that our kids are not happy.  And if they are not happy somehow it is within the power and responsibility of someone else to make them happy.  Along the way we have lost the notion that each of us is in charge of our own happiness.   And while we are there, “happy” is not a permanent state.   It is mostly an elusive moment. 

Most recent research has shown that emotions are highly reactive to the attention that is paid to them.  Yet we have apps on our phone to check in on our happiness, there are articles online of how to check on your happiness, we worry children to find out if they are happy.

All this attention to happiness seems to forget that what we want our children to be in resiient.  Remember the old Timex watch commercials.   “Takes a beating and keeps on ticking.”  That’s what we want for our kids.  Because in truth, into each life a lot of rain will fall.

Evidence shows that the more people value happiness and the more they chase it, the less happy they tend to be.  Asking students to continually reflect on their feelings belies the fact that how they feel right now may not be anything like what they will feel in an hour or maybe even 15 minutes.   Asking kids how they feel tends to amplify the negative feelings and ignore that these feelings may well be fleeting.  

In the past, when a child was complaining about what had gone wrong and her life in general, we would often encourage the child to manage, life will get better.   Today we rush the child off to be evaluated for meds or therapy.  We are in a period where it is hard to find someone who is not in counseling or therapy because they are not “happy” with their lives.  

Psychologists have noted there are people who adopt an “action orientation”, they  are able to focus on the task at hand without getting distracted by their emotional state.  On the other hand, those folks who have a “state orientation” can get so far down the rabbit hole of how they feel, that the task at hand doesn’t get done.

How successful in life will our kids be if their own feelings are always front and center?   How will they manage to complete a day’s work if they are consumed with how they are feeling in the moment?  Teaching kids to overvalue their own emotions sets them up for failure.

So, are you happy yet?  Truthfully, that’s not my job.  Suck it up buttercup.

 

Tuesday, March 5, 2024

Take a message, I'll get back to you

 Take a message, I’ll get back to you

 

Cell phones are taking over.   A chemistry teacher in California complained that kids were watching Netfix on their phones during class.   A teacher in Maryland says that students are using gambling apps during the school day AND placing bets.

In almost every classroom, students are sending Snapchat messages, listening to music and shopping online.  Many parents are not aware of the almost addictive like behavior kids have with their phones.  Maybe that’s because parents are behaving the same way.  

Most schools have rules regarding cell phone use.  The problem is that those rules are only sporadically enforced.  It’s too much trouble. Teachers don't want to get into the fight, especially since they don't feel supported by admin. Some teachers out and out admit that when a student is using her cell phone, she isn’t causing any behavior issues.

Governors and state legislators are getting into the act.  The Governor of Utah is urging all school districts to ban cell phones in school.  Last year, the Florida legislature passed a law that requires school districts to ban student cell phone use during class time and to block social media access on district WiFi.  Some districts like Orange County are banning phones altogether during the school day.

Nationally 77% of school districts prohibit cell phones for non-academic use.

But sort of like the speed limit on roads, enforcement and adherence are slim.

One teacher in Maryland bought a 36-slot cell phone caddy for students to store their phones.  But few students comply and some say they don’t have their phones, even if they do.  So he has given up and figures as long as they are quiet…

Students and parents push back saying they need to be in contact with their kids.  Kids need to be able to call parents.   REALLY- How did kids and families stay in touch before cell phones?   Amazingly, folks managed.

Students will tell you enforcement varies from teacher to teacher.   Teachers will tell you that enforcing the cell phone ban should be an administrators’ responsibility. Often students are calling their parents to complain about a teacher, but that's a story for another day.  The best working systems are those that require students to check their phones at the door with the assumption that every kid has a phone.   That system seems to work.

Next up to distract, are air pods under hoodies and hair  and smartwatches.  Students might need an administrative assistant to take their calls so they can have time to learn.

Tuesday, February 27, 2024

There are secrets out there

 There are secrets out there

 

You might have heard of teachers sneaking a smoke outside.   Or perhaps, taking a sick day because there is an early concert that they don’t want to miss.  But have you heard of teachers hiding books so students CAN read them?  That is what’s happening in multiple classrooms in multiple states where school districts are banning books with certain subjects.  It’s even happening in bright blue Maryland.

Here is how it works.  School districts are banning books written by Black authors, written about the struggle for equality, advancing Diversity, Equity and Inclusion, books about the LBGTQ community and books written either by or sympathetic to that community.  

The school districts doing banning reading materials are mostly very predominately White.  Which makes it all the more important for marginalized communities to be able to access books that speak to their personal experiences.   It is also true that while the suicide rate is rising among all teens, it is rising much more quickly among African-American and LBGTQ kids.   These youngsters feel like the “other”.  They do not fit in.  Who would care if they were gone.

Books speak to those struggles and show kids that there is a way forward and that they are not alone.  A number of teachers in communities that have banned books are establishing underground secret libraries where students can borrow books on the banned book list.  Yep, does remind you of another underground adventure.

Of course, anything that is banned by adults automatically becomes interesting to any teen.  The good news about that is it is wonderful if students from the majority community read some of these banned books too because then they, too, might gain an understanding of the marginalized communities.

Teachers with these secret libraries are building them from the books that have been removed from classrooms as well as purchasing them with their own funds and contributions from others.  Secret library books are not displayed on shelves with their covers facing out to attract readers.  They are instead packed away in boxes at the back of classrooms or in closets. Student volunteers sort and organize the selections and run the sign-out process.

Perhaps the book banning has had an unintended consequence.  More kids want to read the banned books, in both the majority and minority communities.  After all, who doesn’t want to read what you aren’t allowed to read.

Tuesday, February 20, 2024

Nope, you can't get that help

 Nope, you can’t get that help.

 

Kids across our country are experiencing significant mental health issues.   Some experts say this is part of the fall out of the pandemic and the years students spent out of school supposedly learning online.  States are responding differently when kids ask for help.

In some states, that help cannot be delivered without the approval of parents.  Research indicates that requiring parental permission can be a significant barrier to children getting help.  But there are differing perspectives on mental health treatment.  Some cultures just don’t approve of it especially for kids.  The attitude is she will grow out of it or “I don’t want some counselor brain-washing my child with ideas I don’t approve of”.   Access to therapy is particularly critical for children who identify as LGBTQ.   These kids are significantly more likely to attempt suicide and also more likely to have family who do not approve of their feelings.  

States are responding quite differently.  States like Colorado, California  and Maryland have lowered the age of consent for treatment to 12.   In New York teens can self-consent to treatment at age 16 and physicians can authorize that treatment for younger children if they believe it is necessary.  But there are caveats.   The consent laws are only for outpatient and do not extend to prescription medications.  Texas, Alabama, Florida, Georgia, Mississippi and North Carolina have the worst records for providing access to mental health care for kids.  Everyone agrees that mental health treatment for children is much more effective if parents are in partnership with the treatment.  

There are also differences by race.  Data show that 14% of white children have had therapy at one time.  But those percentages drop dramatically for black children to 9% and 8% for Hispanic kids and only 3% for Asian children.   Distrust of therapists who are of a different race and/or bad experiences with psychotropic drugs are offered as the major reasons for failure to access therapy.

As a society we have identified a serious problem for our children.  As states we have taken two entirely different approaches.  Some states have expanded access to counseling by allowing kids to self-refer.   Other states have further limited access by requiring parental permission not just for counseling outside of school but even for seeing a school counselor for any issue at all, including academic counseling. 

We all admit kids need the help.  Some states are trying to facilitate that help.  While other states are acknowledging kids may need help,  but there are going to be some tall border walls going up.

 

Tuesday, February 13, 2024

You are out of here

 You are out of here!

What to do with a kid who is really getting on your nerves? Not just today but most days.  Maybe he could go home, that would be nice.

There are thousands of children in our schools who are doing just that.  The process is called “informal removal” and if the child has a diagnosed disability it is illegal.  But like a lot of things that are illegal, a school district needs to be caught and that isn’t happening very much.

Here is how the scenario plays out.  A parent gets a call from the school.  “Mark is having a bad day, rather than have him get into trouble would you mind coming to pick him up?”  Most parents comply rather than have the child get into more trouble or perhaps even being suspended.

There are school districts that unilaterally place students on shortened school days.  Diane Smith, a lawyer with the National Disability Rights Network, has stated that “the reality is that there are children in this country who are still considered of insufficient quality to go to school”

The National Disability Rights Network, a nonprofit established by Congress more than four decades ago, found that informal removals are occurring thousands of times per year as “off the book suspensions”.  There are even students who are involuntarily transferred to programs that do not exist.

Children are placed in situations where they are required to “earn back” school time that they have a legal right to have.

Educators respond that this practice is their only recourse given the requirements of the Education of All Children with Disabilities Act (IDEA).  That legislation requires two very important elements related to informal removals.  First, a child may not be disciplined for exhibiting behaviors that are characteristic of the disability.  This process is called the Manifestation Meeting where the school’s team and the child’s family make this determination. And, secondly, if the team finds that the behavior is a manifestation of the child’s disability, then the school needs to come up with an individual education plan that mitigates against manifestation.

The Rehabilitation Act of 1973 is up for changes.  Lawmakers have STRONGLY encouraged that informal removals be prohibited.  

Schools and principals are also under pressure to reduce the number of suspensions for children with disabilities.  The answer to that issue is to use informal removals.

Since COVID the practice has increased.  Families are now fighting back.  

There is nothing informal about removing a child from school and parents are going to prove that.

 

 

Tuesday, February 6, 2024

Lots of B's in the package

 Lots of B’s in the package

 

Maryland’s Blueprint for Education has lots of B’s in it.  That’s billions of dollars.  Ten billions of dollars to be exact.  This is state money and it will be matched by local contributions.  That means that taxpayers need to be prepared for their pockets to be picked for both state and local taxes.

Just what will Marylanders get for that significant investment.  Like all budget buster bills there is good news and not so good news.

First the good news.   Maryland is on track to offer free funded preschool for all children.  The services will be provided through a combination of public school programs and local school system contracts with private preschools.  Local districts are struggling with this provision because they don’t have the space or the staff.  Partnering with private providers is going slowly.  Giving preschool opportunities to all children will not only be great for the kids but will truly help the children of lower income families who cannot presently afford the cost.  With a free program, more parents of lower income families will be available to work outside the home and increase family resources.

The Blueprint is also designed to increase starting teacher salaries to $60,000 within the next few years.   Teachers in Maryland are already among the most highly paid nationally. Increasing starting salaries will further strap the resources of local districts without doing anything to increase the talents of the teacher corp.  Surveys show that salary isn’t the issue keeping young people from becoming teachers.  But that is a topic for another day.  In most districts, these increases in starting salaries are not moving up the food chain, so there is the real possibility that any teachers attracted by the starting salary will not stay when they realize the increase has not moved up the salary ladder.

The legislators that created this plan were concerned that it would not be implemented judiciously.  So, in their wisdom, they created the Accountability Implementation Board (AIB).   This Board functions over the State Board of Education in all matters pertaining to the Blueprint.  But we are all assured this new Board is not an increase in bureaucracy.  On July 1, Maryland will have a new State Superintendent of Schools.  This person will answer to the State School Board which in turn will answer to the AIB in all matters pertaining to the Blueprint.    And, of course, the AIB will also have its own collection of support staff and expenses.

There are lots of B’s in this plan.  It has barely been implemented and already there are people saying it’s not enough money.   School districts are saying the same thing.  They don’t have enough money- could be more B’s are coming to pick a pocket near you.

 

Tuesday, January 30, 2024

Coming to a school near you

 Coming to a school near you…

The law requires that all children in Maryland under the age of 18  attend school.  That age was recently increased from sixteen.   

Who are the children in your child’s school?  The Juvenile Courts of Maryland regularly release students to attend public school with hours of community service as a consequence of a variety of bad behaviors.   These behaviors range from something like shoplifting all the way up to what would be felonies in the adult system.  

Those felonies include the use of a weapon in the commission of a crime, murder and sexual offenses such a rape.

School systems are not notifying families of the other students because that would be an obvious violation of the juvenile’s privacy.  However, if that person were a couple of years older, he or she would be listed on a sex offenders list to which the community would have access.

Let’s take the case of a teenager who cornered a girl student in the stairwell of a public middle school.  The girl, who was in a special education class, was pushed up against the wall and the boy touched her inappropriately under her sweater and rubbed his pelvis against her.  The girl was not even sure what was happening.  The consequence of that behavior was that after a 2-day suspension, the boy was transferred to another county middle school.  End of story.  None of the famiies at the receiving school were aware of the disciplinary situation.

In a Baltimore City high school there is a boy who has been convicted of second- degree rape of a 3-year old cousin.  He is currently in the 9th grade at the school.  As part of the disposition of the case, the juvenile magistrate said that he could not be around any child younger than 15 unless there was close supervision.  In a ninth grade there are lots of kids that are not yet 15.  It is next to impossible for any student in a large comprehensive high school to have constant supervision unless there is a dedicated aide.  Neither boy in these two examples has a dedicated aide.

Both school districts have refused to discuss the particular cases because they are protecting the privacy of the juvenile offenders.  In each instance, the districts have offered the legal and constitutional right of the boys to a public education.  That is totally true.  What they do not say is that there are non-public state approved schools that have closer supervision and programs to deal with students who have been sexually aggressive.   Of course, that would mean the school district had to pay that tuition.  But they do that for lots of students for different reasons.

Who are the kids in your child’s school?   Do parents have a right to know?